“Hello Shay I’ve been reading your post for a little while, and have have a question to ask. My girlfriend and I have moved forward in our relationship, but I don’t want to go all the way and she respects that, so we have looked to alternatives, and we have done some “digit” play and I wanted to know if I can do anything to “increase” her pleasure. so if you have any tips for me I would be much appreciative. Thanks. “
Well, it is important to wait until you’re ready before you take that plunge into the deep zone of full on sex – but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a whole lot of fun to be had while you work your way there.
“Digit play” (aka fingering) is a good start – remember not to just ram your fingers in and out of her as fast as you can; you should stroke in and out slowly yet firmly (though not too slow, obviously). You can incorporate more fingers too, or even try switching to your thumb for a change (sounds weird, but it’s worth a try). You can enhance your “digital play” by adding a little vibe to the mix that she can gently press onto her clit. You can also try massaging her clit with your fingers, but remember to make sure that your fingers are lubricated and not to jab at it too roughly (clits are sensitive!). Other than that, you can use your mouth (aka “eat her out” aka engage in cunnilingus). You can dry hump (aka engage in some frottage). You can also try some mutual masturbation, which can be nice because watching her stimulate herself will give you a better idea of what she likes – information that you’ll want to use later.
Remember it’s V-Month!
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