“Shay,
First off I’d like to say thank you for all the hard work you’ve put into this blog and keep up the good work!
Secondly, my question. Just a few days ago you posted a question from another person concerned about long distance relationships. I’m in my own long distance relationship, and Ive stumbled across a problem.
We’ve both kicked around the idea of me heading across the country to where she is or her coming to where I am, but we started talking about sex and stuff and how we’d do it once we do meet up. She said that she likes really long love-making sessions, like 2-4 hours. Id be up for that, but the only problem is that like most guys, i blow my load in less than 10-15 minutes.
Im afraid I wont be able to satisy her or will embarass myself by cuming too quickly. Any tips on how I can prepare for this eventual meeting and last longer?“
Although your girlfriend’s expectation are a tad unrealistic, you still have a lot of wiggle room if you’d like to try to live up to what she thinks she wants in bed.
Rather than worrying about lasting 2 hours before you pop, instead you should think more about making other portions of the whole experience last longer.
For instance, go for a lot of foreplay – give her a bit of a massage (don’t forget her butt!), use your hands on her breasts and vag, eat her out, etc – all these things count towards her perception of how long you two are spending “having sex”.
If you’re STILL worrying about lasting long enough, you can always keep going after you’ve loosed your swimmers.
You’ve probably noticed that you often stay hard for a little while after you orgasm. Well, you might as well put that leftover stiffy to good use.
Some guys even find that, by keeping going after they’ve come, they’ll end up ready to blow again!
This kind of session may not be your typical experience of having sex with your girlfriend – but it’s definitely a treat that you two can enjoy a few times during your visit. I suspect that you two are going to be so happy just to be together that it won’t be a big deal if the majority of your sexual experiences don’t last more than 15-20 mins.
I hope that helps!
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