“Hey Shay! I have a question about performing oral for my girlfriend. To be honest, I’m nervous about doing it. I know she wants me to, but I can’t bring myself to. I want to make her happy in any way possible, so could you give me some pointers on eating her out?“
It’s natural to be nervous of the unknown – if you’ve never attempted to give oral sex before I can see how you might be worried about what it’s going to be like.
Having never preformed oral sex on a woman before myself, I’m in a weird position here for trying to give you advice, but I’ll do my best.
First of all, don’t be scared – vaginas are soft and squishy, they aren’t going to bite you. Also, don’t worry too much about how it’s going to taste, all girls taste different and a girl’s taste changes throughout the month – if you don’t like how she tastes one time, just focus on licking around her labia and clit and stay away from the vaginal opening until she gets wetter.
Second, technique is really easy, most of the things it would occur to you to try will probably feel good: lick her like she’s an ice-cream cone, draw the alphabet with your tongue, flick your tongue over her clit once she’s warmed up, etc. Actually this reminds me, you should hit up her clit last, because it can be too sensitive – in a bad way- if you pay it too much attention when she’s not turned on enough. (I’m sure my readers will be only too happy to offer you even more tips for technique too. ^_~)
And remember, oral sex isn’t a solo activity: you’re allowed to ask her what she likes. Check in with her every so often and ask if she likes what you’re doing, find out if she wants you to pay more attention to something or stay away from anything. There should be lots of communication between the two of you to guide your movements.
Everyone is different too, so what works with one partner might not work with another; and what one person likes might change a little depending on their mood – but with practice you two should definitely be able to develop some fool-proof techniques that work for your current partner nearly all of the time. 
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